Tuesday, October 16, 2007
the importance of words.
i do not know why, but there's suddenly a compelling urge within me to share something i learnt during philosophy class. it may be something you have heard before but i just feel that it is so important. it is regarding the conveying of thoughts to another person, be it verbally, or written.
the reason why it is crucial for us to tell a person how we feel and not think he or she might know how to interpret our "subtle hints" or actions is simple. in the cases of many (except for the few percentage who are so-called "mind readers"), we only have access to our own minds. this makes it hard for us to know what the other person is thinking, and to a certain extent, substantiate whether there are actually other minds like ours out there.
therefore, most of the times when we do not say things out, people around us might interpret our actions according to their own minds. for example, a shy person might get misinterpreted as anti-social or in a more "lovey-dovey" example, your partner might think you don't love him or her just because you didn't say it.
i'm not saying that we should all go out now and expose our innermost thoughts. there are some thoughts that should be kept private, with restricted access. however, what i am trying to say is that, don't rely on "i think he/she should know what i am thinking" sort of attitude. yes, body language can tell a lot, but words convey it more clearly (especially with the absence of proximity). however, don't go spoiling the trust by saying things you don't mean. in ending, i would just like to say, communication is key to every interpersonal relationship.
ps. no wonder sweet-talkers always get their way...
sarah. |
7:50 PM
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